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How to make it easier for children during transitions

One of the most difficult experiences for a child is being raised in two different homes after their parents separate or go through a divorce. There will be constant shuffling between the two homes, two sets of clothes, two sets of furniture, two bedrooms and sharing holidays with both parents. On top of all of this, the child will need to adjust to not seeing both parents every day. Here are some tips for making it easier for children during transitions.

When a child is still adjusting to life in a new home with one of their parents, you can make things very easy on them by helping them understand their schedule. Print out the parenting schedule on a piece of paper and hang it in a common place, such as the refrigerator or on the corkboard above their desk in their bedroom. This allows them to prepare days in advance for going to the other home.

What if your ex-spouse doesn’t obey your custody order?

As a part of any divorce including children, the court hands down a custody order, or approves a custody plan that parents agree on together. Unfortunately, many parents have difficulty sticking to the custody plan and deprive other parents of time with their child. While it is normal for parents to take time to adjust to a new structure of parenting, it is never wise to contradict a custody order.

Courts take the terms of custody orders seriously, and expect parents to respect them as well. If you and your child's other parent face difficulty parenting according to the order, you may want to consider modifying the order to something more manageable.

Making the prenuptial agreement drafting process a positive one

You believe that you and your spouse-to-be should have a solid prenuptial agreement in place before you tie the knot. You know that prenups are becoming increasingly common among couples whether they have a lot of money going into the marriage or not.

However, you're not sure how your partner will react when you suggest it. Therefore, you've been procrastinating about broaching the subject. You know, though, that it's not something that should be put off until the last minute. A good prenup takes time and discussion, and no one should feel pressured to sign something they're not comfortable signing.

Even the wealthy can see money issues lead to divorce

You have probably heard that money issues sit at the root of a lot of divorce cases. However, maybe you think the issue is always a lack of money and financial assets. A man with an addiction problem leaves his family with nothing. A woman who is a sole breadwinner and loses her job finds her family breaking up under the stress. A couple that can't make ends meet has to end their marriage.

These things do happen, and you can find plenty of people who have been through it, but does that mean that wealth insulates you from divorce? No, not at all. Even wealthy couples can get divorced because of issues that ultimately revolve around money. Here are a few ways it can happen.

Be cognizant of your parenting style after divorce

It's only natural that divorce will impact your parenting style. For one thing, even if you and your ex or soon-to-be ex are co-parenting, you're doing it in two households. If you relied on your spouse to be the "bad cop" to your "good cop" (or vice-versa), you can no longer do that. You need to have a more balanced parenting style.

You may have never even taken time to identify your parenting style. However, it's likely to change when you and your spouse separate due to a number of factors, including stress and guilt.

Is bird-nesting a viable custody strategy?

You know that you're not going to feel happy about any child custody strategy when you and your spouse split up. Even if you feel good about splitting your time with the children -- you know it is important for them to see both parents -- you can't change the fact that they face a lot of turmoil. They have to move to two new houses, jumping back and forth between them. They may lose their friends, neighbors and even schools. It's certainly not ideal.

If you worry about this, one potential solution is bird-nesting. It's worth considering, as it may solve your problems without cutting either parent out of the kids' lives.

New law provides guidance regarding pets in California divorces

We Californians pride ourselves in being ahead of other states in many areas. However, one of those hasn't been the way that pets are viewed under the law in a divorce. That has changed thanks to legislation that Gov. Jerry Brown just signed into law. Illinois and Alaska have similar laws on the books already.

Currently under California law, and in most other states, pets are considered property to be divided along with the cars, furniture and artwork. Here in California, if an animal was acquired during the marriage, it is viewed as "community property." Couples still have to determine whether one spouse will keep the animal or whether it will take turns living with each of them. However, if the couple is unable to agree on a solution and a judge has to rule, they can decide the matter based on whatever factors they choose.

What are your choices when presented with divorce papers?

Your spouse has served you with divorce papers. Maybe the two of you have been discussing ending your marriage, and you agreed to let them be the one to proceed with the summons and petition. Maybe you weren't expecting it. Either way, now you have to decide how to respond.

First, it's essential to read the two documents carefully. They provide details regarding things you can and can't do at this point with your assets and debts. If you have children, it may also list restrictions, such as how far you can travel with them.

Yes, men are victims of domestic violence, too

As a man who is leaving a relationship with children, you want to make sure you protect yourself. In your relationship, you struggled with physical and psychological abuse. You were constantly told you were stupid, ignorant and worthless. Your spouse would attack you without warning.

This is the last thing you want for your children, but how can you approach such a sensitive topic? You know you're not the likeliest victim, but will the courts understand?

Tips to help college students avoid drinking to excess

Whether your son or daughter started college this fall, is living in a fraternity or sorority this year or turned 21 over the summer, you're likely nervous about how much drinking they'll be doing at school.

Young people aren't masters of moderation. They might intend to have just a drink or two at a party. However, with some peer pressure, that can turn into a night of binge drinking. That's not healthy under any circumstances. However, if your child gets behind the wheel, they're endangering their life and those of others on the road. Even if no one gets hurt, if they're arrested for drunk driving, they could be risking their college education and future career prospects.

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