You and your co-parent have agreed to share custody of your children. Now you need to work out the specifics of your parenting plan. This can be a challenge -- particularly if the two of you still have some residual anger and distrust. However, a solid parenting plan will help you both be better parents -- which is what's in your children's best interests.
One of the most difficult experiences for a child is being raised in two different homes after their parents separate or go through a divorce. There will be constant shuffling between the two homes, two sets of clothes, two sets of furniture, two bedrooms and sharing holidays with both parents. On top of all of this, the child will need to adjust to not seeing both parents every day. Here are some tips for making it easier for children during transitions.
It's only natural that divorce will impact your parenting style. For one thing, even if you and your ex or soon-to-be ex are co-parenting, you're doing it in two households. If you relied on your spouse to be the "bad cop" to your "good cop" (or vice-versa), you can no longer do that. You need to have a more balanced parenting style.
If you're a divorced parent sharing custody of your kids, you know that your parenting schedule can change with the seasons, and maybe even more frequently. Moving to a summer schedule and then back to a school year schedule can be difficult for children -- particularly younger ones.
A thorough parenting plan can be a great tool as you and your soon-to-be ex move to parenting your children separately. A good parenting plan can help ensure that the two of you are on the same page regarding how your kids will be raised. It can also minimize conflicts and misunderstandings that are stressful on kids.
When couples who have had one or more children together but never married split up, child custody needs to be determined just as it would for parents who are divorcing. Under California law, custody determinations are made using the same considerations whether the parents are married or unmarried.